What will your story be?

When you reflect on the past year, what story comes to mind? Is it one of progress, resilience, and meaningful connections? Or do you find yourself replaying the moments that didn’t go as planned?

We all have a habit of focusing on what fell short. But here’s the truth: the story you tell yourself about your experiences shapes how you move forward. Research from cognitive scientists, like Dan McAdams, highlights how the narratives we construct about our lives influence everything from confidence to decision-making.

If you’re ready to reshape your story and use it as fuel for growth, let’s explore how you can reflect intentionally, celebrate your wins, and step into what’s next with clarity and energy.

Step 1: Take a Step Back

In a world that’s always rushing forward, stopping to reflect can feel counterproductive. But pressing pause is essential. It allows you to zoom out and notice the moments—both big and small—that have shaped your journey.

Find a quiet moment, whether you’re walking the dog, journaling, or sipping tea. Ask yourself:

• What am I most proud of this year?
• When did I surprise myself with what I could do?
• What moments made me feel most alive?

This isn’t just about the big milestones like promotions or major achievements. It’s about the quieter wins too—handling a tough conversation with grace, saying no to something that didn’t serve you, or showing up for someone in a meaningful way.

If you’re struggling to remember, take a look back at your photos, emails, or calendar. Often, the moments that matter most aren’t the ones at the forefront of your mind—they’re tucked away, waiting to be rediscovered.

Step 2: Seek Fresh Perspectives

Sometimes, we’re too close to our own story to see it clearly. That’s where a trusted perspective can bring fresh insight.

Think of someone who knows you well—maybe a friend, a mentor, or a colleague you admire. In a casual moment, ask them:

• “If you were to describe my year in a few words, what would you say?”
• “What’s something you think I should feel proud of?”

Their answers might surprise you. Often, people see strengths and successes we’re too busy—or too self-critical—to notice.

For example, I once asked a friend these questions after a particularly demanding period. She described my year as “resilient, creative, and compassionate.” I hadn’t connected with those words myself, but hearing her perspective helped me see how I’d shown up in ways I’d overlooked.

As leadership researcher Brené Brown often says, vulnerability is key to self-awareness. By opening yourself to someone else’s view, you gain clarity and often uncover the hidden moments of strength and growth in your story.

Step 3: Craft the Story You Want to Tell

Once you’ve reflected and gathered fresh perspectives, it’s time to shape the story you’ll carry with you.
Ask yourself:

• What moments or lessons do I want to highlight?
• How do I want to describe my year in a way that feels true and energising?

Here’s an example:

"It’s been a year of growth. I took on challenges that pushed me out of my comfort zone, built stronger connections with people who matter, and leaned into opportunities to learn. There were tough moments, but they taught me resilience and creativity. I feel ready for what’s next."

Your story doesn’t need to gloss over difficulties or feel overly polished—it just needs to reflect your truth. As narrative psychology research shows, when we frame our experiences positively, we’re more likely to build self-efficacy and set ourselves up for future success.

Why Your Story Matters

The stories we tell about ourselves don’t just shape our self-image; they influence how others perceive us. A confident, balanced narrative can inspire the people around you while grounding you in your strengths.

In her research on career success, Herminia Ibarra found that people who actively craft their professional narratives—linking past experiences to future goals—are more likely to achieve career transitions and growth. Your story is more than a reflection; it’s a powerful tool for shaping the next phase of your journey.

So, instead of replaying the challenges or missed opportunities, focus on the wins, lessons, and moments that brought you energy. Let your story reflect not just where you’ve been, but where you’re headed.

Your Challenge

Take the time to reflect and rewrite your story with intention:

1. Take a step back. Reflect on the moments—big and small—that truly shaped your experience.
2. Seek fresh perspectives. Ask someone close to you for their honest insights about what they saw in you.
3. Craft your narrative. Write a story that celebrates your growth, acknowledges your resilience, and fuels your confidence for what’s next.

If you want more guidance, check out my podcast Your Brilliant Career, where I dive deeper into this process with practical examples and strategies.

The moments that shaped you—your wins, challenges, and growth—are the foundation for what comes next. Craft a story that energises you and reminds you of everything you’re capable of.

Here’s to stepping forward with purpose, confidence, and a story you’re proud to share.